Can I Change My Mind After I’m Matched?

The short answer is that a surrogate can change her mind at any time before she’s pregnant. The longer answer is that we would all hope that if there is a reason to change your mind after you have verbally stated you wanted to work together, it is as easy as telling your case manager. If you change your mind during the contracts then you just need to tell your attorney and your case manager. If you decide after the contracts and before you start your medications that lead up to the embryo transfer you then must tell your case manager and the clinic. The last chance you really have to change your mind is after a failed embryo transfer and before the next transfer where you can tell your case manager and the clinic. The case manager would be the one to interface with your intended parents. Obviously, it would be better sooner rather than later to make a different decision. The best time to share your doubts is as soon as you have them. The medical evaluation, drawing up contracts, starting the transfer process with the medications and monitoring, each step costing the Intended Parents money.

 When you start this process, you are fully educated and when you start to receive profiles of Intended Parents you will have the chance to speak with them and have all your questions answered. Still, it is not unheard of to have second thoughts. All anyone will ask of you is to keep the lines of communication open and tell your case manager the second you want to back out. It will save you and the IPs heartache and undue distress.